Dating is an art. An art which looks too easy to practice but when you get in then only you know how tough it is to be perfect. Dating has its own rules, risks, and failures.
One of the biggest reasons why it’s so difficult to date someone or fall in love is the fear of promise; i.e., commitment. At present, modern dating has become uncertain and puzzling. Some couples have commitment issues and they never seem to accept the terms of being “official.” While some of them are unwilling to discuss the tags (labels), others are having a hard time knowing if that respective person is the correct one for them or not.
And, sometimes, dating can also fail if your spouse is not faithful to you. Make sure not to fall for these common mistakes and have a happy love life.
#1. Faking Your Personality.
You are sitting across each other and especially when it’s about your first date, note this, you are there to know each other and not fool each other. Come out with your true self instead of trying to fake your personality and trying to prove yourself cooler or smarter.
#2. Being Over Expressive.
Stop fooling your date with saying things like, I feel you or I can understand what you’re going through. Don’t take them for fools, thinking that this will help you get the second date. My dear, in today’s world that person sitting across you has had enough exposure to realize that to feel for each other takes time and is never instant.
#3. Not Listening Patiently.
Well, most of us miss this point, you don’t have to keep asking and converting the date into an interrogation. You have to be a good listener, what if s/he wants to know more about you but you’re not concerned. This might lead them to drop future dates too, beware as to how much you ask.
#4. Asking Too Many Questions.
Be practical, you can’t know someone just in a date or two. So, instead of focussing only on her life and personality, try to talk about the beauty around and try to know your date’s perception. We are not asking you to be silent, but you should make sure that your questions aren’t making your date uncomfortable.
#5. Your Touch And Gestures.
We live in the times of one-night-stands where people are eager to jump in bed, but that doesn’t mean you also have to follow the same. People are also getting divorced or sued for sexual harassments; do you want to be a part of that? Proceed at your own pace instead of chasing the trend.
#6. Making Your Date Uncomfortable.
You can’t feel too much for her on the first date or multiple; it takes time and patience to know someone. That doesn’t mean you have to stop caring about her/his comfort level, apply your common sense and improvise by making your date comfortable whenever you feel something is going off-road.
Well, after you decide to date further and make the bond between you two stronger than before; don’t take the expectations too high. You should be practical and understand that having unrealistic expectations will only sabotage your relationship.